"There is nothing more
spiritually powerful that you can do to respond to a difficult situation than to be non-judgmental and fully present, in
the very moment it is happening."
John Kuypers
You can turn
around many situations, but not all. Repair a broken
marriage. Heal a hurtful divorce. Reconcile with an estranged
family member. Speak up in situations where you are normally too
nervous. Feel good about yourself, knowing you did all you could, and
let God do the rest.
Here's how:
"First take the plank out of your own
eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's
eye." These
words of wisdom from Jesus point to the secret for making wiser choices in
difficult situations - a marital spat, parent-teen struggles, conflicts at
work, speaking up when you don't agree, and many more difficult
situations.
2. John Kuypers interviewed on
The Root Cause
of Marriage Breakdown (3:20)
Jesus revealed the secret to removing the
plank: "Do not judge or you will be
judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged and
with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."
Are you your own worst critic? Whether you judge yourself or judge
another, you are blinding yourself to making wiser choices with your
ex-spouse, your difficult work colleague, your challenging finances - your
ability to be the best you can be in any situation.
To judge is to condemn.
Judgments feel hurtful. Do
you thank people when they judge, criticize and condemn you? No.
Instead, most of us want to hurt them back. We both become blind.
Neither of us is able to make wiser choices that heal and reconcile.
Non-judgment does NOT mean condoning or agreeing. It means
influencing with love, grounded in clear, assertive boundaries. It
opens ears, eyes and hearts - not always, but often.
We offer
non-judgmental
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change how you respond to hurtful situations in your life, right in the
present moment.
Our methods are based on
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books written by Present Living
& Learning founder John Kuypers. John's work is anchored in
Jesus' teachings on how to be wise, loving and
non-judgmental.
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