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Download link to Amazon Kindle for The Non-Judgmental ChristianJesus taught a little-known spiritual law that miraculously ends exhausting arguments and solves difficult relationship challenges. “First take the plank out of your own eye and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” (Mt 7:5)  This ancient teaching is the basis of the First Rule of Inner Peace, originally coined by author John Kuypers.

“The Non-Judgmental Christian mindset delves deeply into ways of thinking and interacting that could positively change the way people experience you.”  Jimmy Mack, New Brunswick

His or her specks drive you crazy – habits and behaviors that push your buttons. Your plank makes it hard for you to see wise ways to make things better. The result is a trap that becomes a vicious cycle: “Do not judge or you will be judged…and the measure you use will be measured to you.” (Mt 7:1-3)

You judge each other, hoping to stop them from doing that.  But it doesn’t work. It actually makes things worse!  Soon the trap seems impossible to break out of.  But this book offers a powerful way out, as thousands of readers have discovered.

The Non-Judgmental Christian” changed the way I saw myself, exposed judgments and resentments that I had no idea I was carrying, and revolutionized my situation.  I’ve been a believer for 23 years, worked as a short-term missionary in South Africa, been a counselor at my church and a youth pastor – and in all these years I have not been nearly as impacted by anything else I’ve read (Bible excluded!).” Sherri McGregor, Youth Pastor, Nova Scotia

Jesus taught that we need to first accept a person’s faults and only then will we see clearly what we need to do.   Judgments make us blind, unable to see ways to get the very thing we want.  We often judge those we love with good intentions but the lesson always remains the same.  Pointing out a person’s faults feels critical and causes them to want to criticize your faults. It’s a vicious cycle that fuels arguments and breaks down relationships that matter deeply to you.

You can break this cycle without being a doormat.  The Non-Judgmental Christian teaches you how to see new solutions that will radically change your closest relationships, no matter how difficult your situation feels with your spouse, child, parent, close friend or work colleague.

Read these powerful testimonials from readers just like you –>

“I appreciated your book so much I have read it probably 6 or 7 times in the last year and am still trying to apply your suggested techniques and love it when I succeed (and totally notice at least now when I fail! lol) I want to order more copies because I want to share your wisdom with friends and family.”  Brenda Waldorf, British Columbia 

“My eyes were opened to a new way of seeing and I am a new person. I don’t mean to exaggerate but this is true.” Valerie Balun, California

“Last week, two of my church members gave me your book “The Non-Judgmental Christian” and I must confess I had a hard time putting it down. You ideas are so simple yet profound and life changing.” Reverend Michael Versluis, Sudbury, Canada

“I never realized that when I was judging, I was playing God, and that is something that I must stop doing.”  Wayne Allin, Ontario

“I explained to my husband that it [The Non-Judgmental Christian] ‘humbled me’. I said, ‘I am very suddenly aware’ that I had been judging him. And of my judgmental behavior toward him. Followed by a very simple ‘I am sorry.’  D.W. wife and mother, Ontario

“I’m so fired up about this book that I praise it to each person I speak with! Thank you again and may God provide many more opportunities for this book to reach others as it has reached me!” Christine Lupton, Ontario 

“This book is about what it means to BE a Christian.  For me, the best part of the book is the exploration of the non-judgmental Jesus: how He was neither a “hammer,” a “doormat” nor a “rescuer” of people.” Jimmy Mack, New Brunswick

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The Non-Judgmental Christian book ends arguments, fighting and cold shouldersIf you are ready to try something different that is spiritually grounded and solves real-world difficult challenges, you need to read The Non-Judgmental Christian today. Here’s how:

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Enjoy these additional letters from readers of all ages, vocations and walks of life:

August 13, 2010

Hi John,

Rev. Ron Horst here, of the parishes of Holy Trinity Anglican Church; and Emmanuel Anglican Church, Gibbons, Alberta, Canada.

I first found your book THE NON-JUDGMENTAL CHRISTIAN at a Promise Keeper’s Convention in one of the Greater Toronto municipalities in Ontario. I believe it was in the Fall of 2004. It was on its own separate display table, and I perused it with great interest. There was a printed sign on the table top saying “This book will divorce-proof your marriage.” I saw that and puzzled “I am not worried about that.” As my wife thinks I spend too much money on books (Is that possible?) I turned and went back to my seat. On the way I got that queasy feeling I often get when I know I have missed the Lord’s will or opportunity. So at the next break I threaded my way through the 8,000 men all of whom seemed to be at the bookstore to get my copy. The rest is history. I could not tell you how many times I have gone back to review the book when I am tempted to try to control relationships or outcomes.  I am sure you can imagine the amount of freedom I have found as the Lord has shown me His truth of the need to get the log out of my own eye.  It is a standard part of any counseling I do.

Truly, THE NON JUDGMENTAL-CHRISTIAN has made my list of top ten life-changing books of my Christian life.

Blessings on you and your ministry.

Joyfully,

Ron Hӧrst,
Rector Holy Trinity Anglican Church

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Hello Mr. Kuypers,

I just want to let you know how much I’m enjoying your book. As soon as I had read the first page, I went right out that day to buy one! I want to thank you for your insights and for sharing your personal experiences.  I am learning so much, and looking at my relationship (12 stormy years) with my husband in a whole different light! I have to purposely make myself read only a portion at a time – it would be so easy to devour this book—so that I can really absorb the information and pray about how it relates to me, and how God wants me to use it.  I’m so fired up about this book that I praise it to each person I speak with! Thank you again and may God provide many more opportunities for this book to reach others as it has reached me!

Sincerely,
Christine Lupton
Burlington, Ontario

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Dear John,

I woke up at 3am and couldn’t get back to sleep so made my way down to the study and my eye’s fell on your book “The Non-Judgmental Christian”! Of course I picked it up and started reading.  I could so identify with what you were writing about and in parts I was howling so loud with laughter I thought I’d wake my husband up from his “snoring” state!  You have blessed us by writing this book and one which we will definitely recommend to other couples!

Lyn Hopkins
St. Thomas, Ontario

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Dear John,

Your book, The Non-Judgmental Christian, has given me a new hope that through the love of God, I can come to peace with who I am, and find love inside me to give to others.

Stuart Lemesurier, father, husband, lawyer, Toronto

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Dear John,

Thank you. Many, many times, thank you. Your book ‘The Non-Judgmental Christian’ changed the way I saw myself, exposed judgments and resentments that I had no idea I was carrying, and revolutionized my situation. I’ve been a believer for 23 years, worked as a short-term missionary in South Africa, been a counselor at my church and a youth pastor – and in all these years I have not been nearly as impacted by anything else I’ve read (Bible excluded!).

I live in Nova Scotia, and am driving to Halifax tomorrow to buy my 4th copy of your book for a friend of my son’s who told him today she is filing for divorce. I’m convinced that if she’ll read even just the first chapter, she’ll re-think that decision. The other copies are winging their way to South Africa and Italy, or being devoured by family and friends.  I believe this book to be an incredibly powerful tool of the Lord’s, and I thank you and honour you for having the courage to follow His voice and write it.

Bless you and thank you, thank you, thank you.

Sherri McGregor
Nova Scotia, Canada

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Dear John,

Some of the more meaningful quotes from your book for me are:

‘Non-judgment opens ears and softens hearts.’
‘Your private self must become the same as your public self.’
‘You must want your wife, not need her.’
‘Your ability to give compassion to others will be governed by your ability to give yourself support while you are suffering.’

Overall, your book differs from many I have read of its genre in the level of personal versus general revelation, which lends a very authentic tone to your teachings.

Sincerely,

Mike Martin, Ontario, Canada

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Dear John,

I was at the Man Alive Conference in Toronto and purchased your book. Once I started reading it I could not put it down. It’s like you were talking about my life. You have made me aware of how judgmental I am and how much work I have to do in this area. This is the 2nd marriage for my wife and I so it was important for both of us to read your book. I never realized that when I was judging, I was playing God, and that is something that I must stop doing.”

God Bless,
Wayne Allin

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Dear John,

My husband and I have just finished reading The Non-Judgmental Christian and were amazed at how it enlightened us as to the root of some of the problems we were having. It has given us a lot to discuss.”

Thank you,
Wendy Allin

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Dear John,

After reading your book, I did some things differently at home in my relationship right away – and out in the world too. I also shared your images of “Hammer and Doormat” with some of my coaching clients, and found that they work for other people too. What’s more, I was touched – sometimes deeply – by your stories of yourself and people like us breaking through in their relationships.

Thanks, and God bless,
Jean Davies
Centerpoint Coaching, Oakville, Ontario

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INDEPENDENT BOOK REVIEWS

Jimmy Mack, Saint John, NB:

The Non-Judgmental Christian is about what it means to BE a Christian (sanctification). Kuypers uses a lot of personal anecdotes but the book transcends its original self-help purpose. Kuypers starts out wanting to help us improve our relationships, but what he achieves, beyond that, is a transparent exploration of his own journey toward a Christian self.

He admits to not achieving perfection, but through the 5 Lessons he explores what it means to think like Christ and how maturing as a child of Christ means evolving a non-judgmental mindset that affects every aspect of your life. This includes your personal goal-setting and your interactions with others.

It’s impossible for the author to cover every aspect of Christian life in one book (that’s what the Bible is for) and as a very personal text, he doesn’t fully explore the idea of vocation. Yet, this overview of the Non-Judgmental Christian mindset delves deeply into ways of thinking and interacting that could positively change the way people experience you.

For me, the best part of the book is the exploration of the non-judgmental Jesus: how He was neither a “hammer,” a “doormat” nor a “rescuer” of people. Kuypers explains that other people are what God wants them to be (He is sovereign) and that we aren’t supposed to try to change others to suit our idea of what they should be — even with the best of intentions.

I can’t imagine a single Christian, especially Christian men, who will not be affected by this powerful book. Don’t miss it.

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Wade Van Bostelen,  Hamilton, Ontario:

In this easy to read format John outlines the ways that people create barriers that hurt each other and themselves. Baring his soul through sharing his own experiences, John’s book serves as a study guide specifically designed for men to help improve their relationships with their spouses. This book also serves a secondary purpose for all who read it – men and women alike – to examine themselves to see what they are doing to damage their relationships. This is well worth the read!

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The Non-Judgmental Christian
by John Kuypers
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